Monday, January 20, 2014

Bullying

If someone is being mistreated, speak up. Silence has done more harm than good. Bullying is becoming epidemic because now bullies don't only have the school ground or the work place, they also have the internet. Cyber bullying can be so damaging that it has led to suicide in some cases and long lasting emotional problems for many  victims. Years ago I taught at a public high school and learned first hand how cruel students can be. If a fight broke out, students would create a circle and watch as the two fighters went at each other until a teacher intervened or the administration was called. Students who were bullied were laughed at by onlookers.
Then, we began educating students about bullies and what one should do when witness to bullying. We explained that bullies have self esteem issues and are usually bullied at home by one or both parents or sometimes by a sibling. Students who understood they were bullies soon realized that they needed help and those who were being bullied learned they could rely on teachers and staff to work with them. Counselors helped both the bully and the victim. Had we stood by and done nothing, our students would have remained helpless and fearful, yet we spoke up and everyone gained from the experience. 

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I agree that the cause of the bullying starts with the bully's home life. Another cause could be that the bully was once bullied too, or is being bullied at that time. I've also known people who bullied others but didn't know it was harassment until someone told them. The bully was oblivious because of many reasons, one being that their parents didn't discipline them, so they thought teasing someone was fun, but the bully had no idea how much they effected the victim. In the end, the bully suffers a punishment or even guilt if the victim commits suicide.

Anonymous said...

I agree that the cause of bullying is from hardships that the student is experiencing outside of school whether the student is picked on at home or even outside the house. Unfortunately, the effect is the student ends up taking their frustration out on others they may or may not know within the individual's age range by either verbal or physical abuse in person or online.

Natala Orobello said...

I hope those situations are very few and far between. I do agree with you about the bully, but how can we fortify the recipient of the bully's attacks?

Natala Orobello said...

Yes, that is the unfortunate problem. I wish I knew how to reduce bullying. Sometimes I think the problem should be addressed by strengthening the recipient, so he/she does not put up with it.