Be introspective – learn who you are. When I was a Freshman in college, my English professor gave an assignment that I thought was silly. He said, "I want you to go home and look in the mirror. Write down what you learn."
"What?" I thought, "that's ridiculous," but I waited till the kids were in bed and then I went to my bedroom and sat down in front of the mirror. At first I saw only the superficial me and then within a half hour, I was bawling. I got the lesson. I began to look inside just like Kafka before he wrote The Metamorphosis. I wasn't a bug, but I saw the good as well as the bad. I saw the real me and it wasn't pretty, but I learned to acknowledge my strengths as well as my weaknesses and work toward improving myself.